I published The Other Side of Charm with the same goals Martha Stout had when she published her famous book The Sociopath Next Door: The Ruthless vs. the Rest of Us. She said:
“It is my hope that this book will play some part in limiting the sociopath’s destructive impact on our lives. As individuals, people of conscience can learn to recognize “the sociopath next door” and with that knowledge work to defeat his entirely self-interested aims. At the very least, they can protect themselves and their loved ones from his shameless maneuverings.”
I agree. And I sum it up like this:
“My hope is to disempower psychopaths by empowering everyone else.”
And education is empowerment. To get an insider’s view on an intimate relationsiop with a psychopath, check out The Other Side of Charm. Experienced readers like Donna Andersen of Lovefraud.com say it’s the best detailing of what it’s like to be in a relationship with a psychopath that they’ve ever read. But if you are a victim/survivor of psychopathy, I must warn you that the content can trigger your trauma response system.
If you’re interested in learning more about how I manage (and thrive within) my long-term co-parenting relationship with a psychopath, watch for my current series of posted chapters from my upcoming book, My Ex is a Psychopath, But I am Strong and Free. As of today, I have posted the first chapter and am preparing to post the second, then the third, and so on.
You can learn how to better protect yourself and those you love. First, develop a real understanding of psychopathy. Second, learn how to identify the hidden psychopaths among us. And third, teach others so they can also protect themselves. By taking action, we can empower ourselves and create a safer society. And as the pioneering expert on psychopathy Hervey Cleckley stated in his seminal work, The Mask of Sanity, Fifth Edition:
“few medical or social problems have ever so richly deserved and urgently demanded a hearing.”
It’s time to give psychopathy the hearing it deserves.
(Note: “Psychopath” and “sociopath” are used interchangeably here due to current confusion around these labels in our society. For more on this, see my post “Everyone’s Ex is a Psychopath.”)