If you were connected to your kids, they could never be alienated from you.
(Often followed by, so tell me why you can’t connect with your kids?)
I’ve heard this from multiple professionals right after they figured out that they didn’t know what to do to help.
Think of it from their perspective—who really knows how to help with alienation?
Very, very few people. Some texts say that no one knows. That there’s no proven and reliable method.
And that sometimes, in some cases, there’s just no point of return.
So it’s easy to turn and look at you. What’s wrong with you? Most professionals know how to talk about that.
And I’m not trying to say that victims of alienation are perfect.
I just want to reassure you that anyone in the world can be brainwashed, let alone a child. It happens all the time. And your “co-parent’s” behavior is not your fault. You don’t have to own it. It’s not yours.
Put that suitcase down.
Don’t go there.